Good Friday, Dear Readers!
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Moving forward now to today's COD—Conundrum Of the Day.
Hidee-Ho MikChiks (salutation ours),
Land of many wonders, sometimes those include things you might think are inappropriate and leave you head scratching, wondering why the person who posted what they did thought it would be a good idea to do so. Today my conundrum is in regard to a female friend who has adopted as her profile shot a photo of her with a fair amount of skin exposed. Let's say we can see where her tan lines end....
I think that this is inappropriate, not only because I value modesty (as I'm finding out more and more) but because she is a Christ follower and ought to know that shots like this are titillating and could lead even a strong man into dangerous mental territory. Wanting to be perceived as being an attractive person is understandable, but I think the 'vast tracts of land' profile pic cheapens her and unnecessarily advertises her as a...temptress.
Lest ye think I'm (totally) jealous, I think she's a lovely person and if I had her youth and looks I might well want everyone to be gandering at them too, but this is a little much, esp as a woman of 'faith'.
SO, the thing is - is this MY problem, or does one say something about it? Like - 'hey, all those married dudes who are your FB friends are going to see this and might get the wrong idea about you so please keep it under wraps and oh by the way that bikini shot you posted last year? Same deal.' or am I being a total prig about this and should just accept that young(er) women of cute appearance and availability (though if she were still married this might bother me more, I don't know) will post pictures like this and I should just get over it?
Your thoughts are appreciated.
Didn't need to know where the freckles end.
You're right about so many things, and we don't think you're a prig. A prude maybe, but never a prig. Just kidding. Though how much skin is acceptable, can be situational. A picture of a string-bikini-clad woman lounging seductively with her umbrella drink is obviously inappropriate. A bikini-clad mom with her kids building a sandcastle might not be. So we hesitate to make a blanket statement that all flesh is too much. The attitude, pose, and context should be taken into account because sometimes a person can be fully clad and still exude a wanton invitation.
Now to the part of saying something…
We'd say it all depends on how close you and your friend are.
If you're pretty tight, and talk on a regular basis it's a-okay to butt into her butt-baring business. If you're only casual friends, and this would be the first conversation you've had in a long time, then you'd be a jerk.
Maybe if you're not really good friends, you could try asking her out for coffee and catching up, or starting innocuous on-line conversations. Don't spring anything on her right away, and don't look at her as a 'project'. See if you can be legit friends, and eventually, after nurturing that relationship for a while, broaching the topic of her tantalizing ways won't be so awkward.
It would be great if people used a conservative yardstick when deciding on what they say and show on Facebook—always asking before hitting the enter button: what would my boss/mother-in-law/grandmother/__________(fill in the blank) think if she saw this?
And lastly, we all have our own thresholds for what we think is "too much," so extending grace to others (especially if they're on the young and dopey side), isn't a bad thing, either.
Please let us know what you decide!
And that's it for another exciting week on this rotating earth of ours. Hope you all have a wonderful weekend with people you love.
Maddie and Lisa