Infertility--Between Alcoholism and Blindness? Oy.

Dear MikChiks,

I've been stalking faithfully following your blog since it started. I've appreciated the advice that you've given others, so when I was presented with my own conundrum, I knew just where to go.

After two years of quietly dealing with infertility, I decided to start blogging about it. I didn’t want my blog to be a place to whine and complain, like many of the infertility blogs out there. Instead, I wanted it to be interesting and informative. I wanted it to be professional, not pitiful. I had grand visions of a large readership, multiple contributors, and a lot of interaction.

I was starting to get a few readers, and even managed to have a guest post or two, when suddenly, I discovered that I was pregnant. My immediate struggle with infertility was over, though I may have the same difficulties if when we try to have another child.

I wanted to shout my good news to the world, but held back on my infertility blog. How could I share my excitement about my baby with others who have been struggling longer that I? I didn’t feel I could. So, I stopped posting.

That was a year ago. I am now a mother and loving every moment of it. However, I still think about my poor neglected little blog. I just don’t know what to do about it. My experience with infertility has left a lasting mark. It has colored the way that I look at the world around me. I still have much I could say on the subject, but should I? Can a mother write an infertility blog without feeling like a fraud?

I need your advice. Should I continue my infertility blog or do I chalk the whole thing up to experience and move on?

Signed,

Bewildered Blogger

Dear Bewildered Blogger,

First off, we appreciate your stalking following ways!

Secondly, let's take a gander at other blogs.

When it comes to those that deal with a specific issue, many are written by people who went through it and have come out on the other side.  And we like that.  For example, if we followed a blog about alcohol abuse, it would be disconcerting if the blogger wrote in an inebriated state.  We might laugh, but it wouldn't really be funny.

On the other hand, if we were blind and followed a blog (by brail), and by some Miraculous Circumstance, the blogger regained his eyesight, would we still want to follow?  Perhaps.  Perhaps not—as we are now in completely different circumstances and that's not likely to change.

Your issue seems somewhere in between.  Infertility isn't self-induced (usually), nor self-destructive—unlike alcoholism.  Yet it can be overcome—unlike blindness (in most cases). 

And as you pointed out, you could experience it again when you try to conceive Tot # Two.

And you still have a heart for the issue, with things left to say.

Sensitivity permeates every line you wrote to us, and that makes us believe that you will be sensitive to your Readers.  We're guessing that you don't plan on splattering "It's a Girl/Boy!" stork signs all over your blog's sidebars.  With sensitivity, honesty, and transparency, we're guessing that reconnecting with your own stalkers followers won't be difficult.

Ergo, we give you Two Thumbs and Many Baby Feet up!

Blog with (sensitive) Abandon!

Chances are you will be the fertile ground that gives someone hope!

Well, what say The Readers???

Oh, and Bewildered Blogger—CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

Mucho Amore,

Lisa and Maddie-Lou